Hi all, long time :)
While we knew and wanted to know the sex of our first child as soon as
possible, the opposite is the case with Baby2. It all started jokingly with
hubby saying he didn't want to know, then it became a more serious he didn't
want to know. I knew the only way that mission was going to be a success is for
me not to know as well. I mean, if I know what we're having then I'm going to
tend to buy or gravitate towards certain colors which will be a giveaway for
hubby. It is possible but becoming increasingly difficult to find cute stuff
that are gender neutral and because pink it automatically attached to girls and
blue to boys, a little hint of each color in anything can be perceived as a
giveaway. With that in mind, I decide I'm ok with not knowing as well. Mostly
because I already have my mini-me, even though she looks nothing like me, so I
really wouldn't mind whichever way it turns out even though I have my thoughts
on what it is, all that matter is that it's a healthy baby.
So, how has it been not knowing the gender of the baby, you ask? Well,
surprisingly to me, it doesn't seem to bother me at all or tickle my curiosity
at all. I partially want to attribute that to just being a little more busier
than I was with my first, so I've got more going on and don't really have time to
spend wondering if it's a boy or girl. The only drawback so far is that I can't
really shop and get all stocked up on cute little outfits like I did for
Eliana, so Baby2's closet is looking very empty right with not much to stare or
gush over. You can also view that as an upside depending on how you look at
things. It may have helped avoid some unnecessary purchase if you will.
The other thing that I think has helped completely curb the anticipation is
that NOBODY knows, not even my doctors. Well, only God knows. I told the doctors early on we didn't want to
know but I was hoping they would check and just keep it on file as a
secret only to find out after they did they scan, as she excitedly reported to
me that they didn't even check so my secret is safe with me! I was a little
surprised as I was looking forward to playing the tell-me, don't-tell-me game
at every appointment but that went right out the window right then. So, with
the detailed anatomy scan done and out of the way, I know I wasn't going to ask
them to do another one just to check, so I accepted that fate of not knowing
and I’m enjoying just watching the baby grow, boy or girl.
I think the best part though is not having to tell stranger what I'm having.
When asked, instead of telling them, we know but we're not telling or telling
them, it kind of feels good just telling them I don't know. That leads to more
follow up questions like 'you don't want to know?' and such but again, that's
easy to answer in one word as well. Friends, family and maybe some acquaintance
asking is one thing, it is something else when a complete stranger asks as I'm
out and about.
Maybe as due date gets closer I will be become more curious but I have
definitely surprised myself with how little, or not at all I feel bothered me
not knowing!
With that said, I think my nesting instinct are kicking are as I have
started and completed a couple DIY projects for Baby2’s room with a few more to
go. I made a poms and tassel garland to hang over the crib. I love how it turned out. I'm sticking with neutral color hence the white and grey and just keeping things simple.
I figured a little color won't hurt so I made this very easy and inexpensive animal wall art for pop of color. The star is something I have carried over from the shower decor/theme now into Baby2's room. That happened when found the perfect grey pillow with shimmering stars on it, I just knew I had to carry that star theme all the way.
Talk to you soon!
